During the end of the year, people usually recall their (one year behind) moment. Capturing what they’ve been through. So fresh, tangible and real.. experience is the only teacher of all things. The thing that can drive us to be a better one. People tend to recall their achievment and wondering an important variable in their life. The things that should be maintaned well- as they want to sustain in their achievment. Like what things led them there? How many true friends that still stays to them in every condition? Or what is their personal mistakes that they do this year which they shouldn’t do back again next year? .. Or the very (hard to answer) question : Are we on the right path to our truly dream? Or we just waste our time to redifine our life’s expectation? We always come up again with our truly voice deep inside of us… Asking our self.
Finaly we realize that we always forget the idea about to stop conforming others’s ideal and start constructing our own. Yes thats the problem, we never give our self to be in the real-time evaluating. Times for reflection. Not to mention that we have to make resolutions but we can use this end of the year as our time to learn our only self, examining our past and make a plan to the future.
And not a few of people, who actually caught in their evaluation process. They began to blame their self, blame others, blame the past, blame the years for everything that they feel right now. They see the last year was their ‘errors’.
That people thinking that the past would always impact their (next) lifes, and desperately didn’t care about ‘tomorrow’. They give up too see another good things that might comes. When do evaluating they began to blame their self as the one whe making mistakes in lifes. And… I can say that the very first thing to do is to letting go. Ya, it takes a lot more courage to let something go than it does to hang on to it, trying to make it better. It doesn’t mean ignoring a situation but to accept what it is, exactly as it is, without fear, resistance, or a struggle for control.
I know its kind of hard to do, that it’s incredibly hard to let go of one’s pain happened to us. But If we’ve held onto it for a long time, it feels like an old friend. Justified. It would be sacrilegious to let it go. It will ruin our lifes. Nobody’s life should be defined by their (past) pain. It’s not healthy, it adds to our stress, it hurts our ability to focus, study and work, and it impacts every other relationship we have (even the ones not directly affected by the hurt). Every day you choose to hold on to the pain is another day everybody around you has to live with that decision. And feel its consequence.
So, heal your self by forgiving the past.
Let us believe the past as the opporunity to learn as depression doesn’t heal anything. The very first thing to do is to forgive our self. Dont force our mind to seeking the answer of why we didnt knowing something sooner that we actually through it. Because we will never find out the answer, how could we know before we know it (have been through the mistakes). Just evolving ur self beautifully as we learn something new when we learn it (not a moment before). And life would always teach you from your bad times, karma, destiny, delusions…whatever, And we are all (just) beginners. So forgiving our self is the best way, this would open up our mind and heart so that we can recognize another healing opportunity. It would led us to see things differently, better.
This one is from Iyanla Vazant :
Today, I ask for and open myself to receive the strength, courage, and compassion required to forgive myself. I forgive myself for all perceived sins, faults, mistakes, and failings. I forgive myself for every thought, belief, behavior, perception, and emotion that I have told myself is bad, wrong, unjust, unloving, and displeasing to You, God. I forgive myself for every hurt, judgment, condemnation, unkind or unloving thought, belief, and perception I have held about or against myself. I forgive myself for any behaviors, habits, or actions motivated by unforgiveness, the unwillingness to forgive myself. I forgive myself with compassion and love. I ask for, accept, and claim God’s forgiveness. Today, believing and knowing that because I have asked, I have received. I am so grateful. I let it be! And so it is!
Yes let your self forgiving urs. Define our past year as the journey..and right now is the very perfect time to make a transformations that we need to manifest our life. This is what Elizabeth reminds us about Metanoia.
Metanoia; (n.) the journey of changing one’s mind, heart, self or way of life.
Mind our self that everything happens to us is a part of God’s plan for our awakening. Dont see bad times would ruin our next but as the gift because its a road to transformation. And please always keep on our mind that we are the only actor to our change. We have to select our thought and our behaviour in order to make a move. We dont wait to change because we need it that bad. To be so much better-different tommorow. Better within ourself… the past was the only preparation. Because people come and go, situations rise and fall. Dont get stuck with your old standard of happiness. You have the key to fix your own. Just focus in the presence, and believe that god within you. Tommorow may be the only chance, that you have to try.
So.. take a deep breath and gently tell the past that now we break up. We want you (past year) to know it’s over between us. We’ve had a so much in pain this year, but it didnt mean there’s no good things next year. I am on my way to my faith, so stop bothering my way. I have a big plans for my 2015, and I can’t let anything hold me back any longer. I promise to my self that i will take every journey with me, and learn agreat deal about it, that is always a good thing. I forgave everything behind and ready for the new beggining. Be blessed and Happy New Year~Syaila (: